We need more men like this in the world. If they speak out about what women face on a daily basis, maybe the world will start listening. In a world where our bodies > or words, misogynists like to dismiss these valid points as “bitching and moaning” if it comes from a woman.

Thank you to “Daddy,” who wrote this!

Words From a Father to His Daughter (From the Makeup Aisle)



Does adoption still sound like a good idea, pro-lifers?

  • It is estimated there are between 143 million and 210 million orphans worldwide
  • Children in group care are almost four times more likely to experience sexual abuse than children in family based care
  • Every day 5,760 more children become orphans
  • Approximately 250,000 children are adopted annually, but…
  • Each year 14,505,000 children grow up as orphans and age out of the system by age sixteen
  • Each day 38,493 orphans age out
  • Every 2.2 seconds another orphan ages out with no family to belong to and no place to call home
  • Studies have shown that 10% – 15% of these children commit suicide before they reach age eighteen
  • These studies also show that 60% of the girls become prostitutes and 70% of the boys become hardened criminals
  • Another study reported that of the 15,000 orphans aging out of state-run institutions every year, 10% committed suicide, 5,000 were unemployed, 6,000 were homeless and 3,000 were in prison within three years…

Source: http://www.orphanhopeintl.org/facts-statistics/

Still see an unwanted fetuses as a “gift” instead of a burden? Still going to insist that women choose adoption over abortion? Would you really want to be responsible for dumping your kid off in the foster system without looking back? You think that’s MORE humane that stopping a pain-filled, depressing life before it starts? You have to realize that pro-choice advocates DO care about the well-being of the child, especially beyond the point of mere birth. Please try to understand…

(PS: I’m pro-choice and have always planned on adopting. Can the same be said for you?)


Dear Oppressors,

Don’t like gay marriage? Don’t get gay married.

Don’t like abortion? Don’t get an abortion.

Pretty simple stuff.


There is a concept called body autonomy. Its generally considered a human right. Bodily autonomy means a person has control over who or what uses their body, for what, and for how long. Its why you can’t be forced to donate blood, tissue, or organs. Even if you are dead. Even if you’d save or improve 20 lives. It’s why someone can’t touch you, have sex with you, or use your body in any way without your continuous consent.

A fetus is using someone’s body parts. Therefore under bodily autonomy, it is there by permission, not by right. It needs a persons continuous consent. If they deny and withdraw their consent, the pregnant person has the right to remove them from that moment. A fetus is equal in this regard because if I need someone else’s body parts to live, they can also legally deny me their use.

By saying a fetus has a right to someone’s body parts until it’s born, despite the pregnant person’s wishes, you are doing two things.

1. Granting a fetus more rights to other people’s bodies than any born person.
2. Awarding a pregnant person less rights to their body than a corpse.

Reblogged from Misandry Mermaid

Flaws in the pro-life platform

Serious responses only.

1) An unwanted fetus is a men’s issue, too. It takes two to tango. What are you doing to condemn the men who walk out on the women they impregnate? (I’ve only seen women-shaming with abortion.) Do you acknowledge that both played an equal part in the accidental pregnancy, and that both have equal human sexual needs? Why aren’t pro-lifers vocal about that?

2) In the case of rape, a woman’s body has been horribly violated, leaving both mental and physical scars. Would you force this woman to have a rapist’s child and watch her body suffer more physical damage for the next nine months? Some women describe childbirth as the worst pain of their life. I’m trying to give you credit here… because I don’t think any of your are THAT sadistic. Surely, ending an unwanted life before it even gains awareness is more humane than torturing a living human who has already suffered trauma, right?

3) Do you truly believe that babies bring joy to everyone’s lives? Do you acknowledge that 100% of women who get abortions did so because it would not bring joy to their lives/bodies? Can you think from a perspective outside of your own? Did you know that not every sexually active woman wants, or has ever wanted, a child?

4) How can a working career woman be expected to throw out her life accomplishments to raise a baby she never wanted? What are you doing to tell our government that paid maternal/paternal leave, as well as affordable childcare and hospital services, are severely lacking in our country, compared to every other developed nation? What legislation have you collectively written to improve conditions?

5) Do you slut-shame, or are you against a woman’s right to express herself sexually - even if it’s before marriage? (Hint: Since the dawn of time, men have been allowed to do this openly, without any consequences or shaming from society. So why women?)

6) What are you doing to help men and women gain access to free and affordable birth control? The entire reasoning behind abortion is that accidents happen… so shouldn’t you be passing out condoms and pills every day to prevent more accidents?

7) If your side “won” and abortion became illegal in the U.S. do you really think that would stop abortion? Countries without legal abortion still have the same or higher numbers of abortion! What would criminalizing abortions actually accomplish?

8) How many children have you adopted? You all try to persuade women to have the child, then adopt it out or put it in a foster home, but how many of you or your pro-life buddies have ever adopted children? Do you have any idea what emotional damage it does to a kid to grow up parentless in the foster system, poor, and feeling unwanted AND like a burden?

I’m asking these questions, because you’re trying to ban abortion in a world that’s not possible for most young people to happily become parents. You must change the world first, make it feasible to raise a child in, THEN maybe you’d have an actual argument.

As it stands, we have high unemployment, an economic recession, highest living expenses ever, lowest minimum wage buying power ever, highest hospital bills ever, and a war on public schooling. Ideally, it’d be great to give every fetus a shot at a good life. But why force someone to bring it into a crummy world? That’s inhumane, in my opinion.


RE: Responses to “40 Million Is Too Many”

The pro-life responses I’ve gotten to my “40 Million Is Too Many” post reek of short-sightedness, hostility, and ignorance. As expected. So let’s straighten a few things up:

1) According to W.H.O., the correct number IS 40-50 million abortions worldwide. Please check YOUR facts.

Source: http://lmgtfy.com/?q=abortions+per+day+worldwide

2) No, the planet is NOT sustainable as it is! Any environmental scientist can tell you that. Population control isn’t about physical “space” for humans to fit into. (I can’t believe I’m explaining this third-grade level concept, but someone suggested we just move the extra 1 billion people to live on farmland… but how would minimizing food production sites HELP feed a growing population? SO short-sighted!) It’s all about resources and sustainability. Right now, real live humans are dying of thirst and hunger, all around the world, because there simply isn’t enough to go around. Every added person will be competing for those resources. In the past 60 years, we’ve added 4 billion to our population, and that number needs to DECREASE!

Besides the environmental damage, the competition for jobs is already tight… basic economics will tell you that when a large workforce enters a job market that isn’t hiring, it leads to decreased pay/benefits. Big businesses in a capitalistic society will always exploit people willing to work for less (or free). That’s why our jobs are already being outsourced to other countries. You can read up about it yourself, or calculate your own carbon footprint and do the math for everyone else on the planet - but either way, you can’t deny that population control is needed, and that abortion could save the world.

Source 1: http://www.worldwatch.org/global-population-surpasses-7-billion-two-clear-strategies-sustainable-future

Source 2: http://www.nature.org/greenliving/carboncalculator/

3) No, old people dying out would NOT “balance out” a sudden and rapidly growing generation within the past 23 years. Think about it…. slowly… just because more people are populating the planet doesn’t mean more people are dying. It just means more people are occupying the same space. Got it now? Good.

Source: Common sense!

4) As far as population control is concerned, I am not “killing off” anyone. Don’t bring people who are already-born into this debate, because it’s NOT the same! Fetuses do not have birth certificates or rights or a consciousness, nor have they ever contributed to society. Born humans have all of these things. An unwanted specimen who is dependent on and consumes the body of another to survive is medically defined as a parasite. An unplanned child can cause hurt and hardship, especially financially. So yes, I’d rather abort a parasitic cluster of cells than kill of real live humans to solve population control.


Remember this, and remember it well: People who choose abortion are faced with a tough decision. Nobody nefariously tries to get knocked up with the hopes of getting an abortion. I want a family someday, but it’s not feasible right now, and if I were to accidentally get pregnant, I’d have to make the devastating choice to get an abortion. Stop villainizing and shaming women who wish to make their own BIG life choices, using safe medical technology that is legal. Sorry guys, but abortion is NOTHING new. Coathangers really were a thing, and women were so desperate to get rid of the fetus inside them that they injured/killed themselves in the process. The only difference nowadays is that it’s safe and legal - and as an added bonus, abortion rates are LOWER in countries where abortion is legal! And before you keep picturing a poor full-grown child being slaughtered, most abortions happen in less than 9 weeks (the thing looks like a tadpole) & the legal cutoff is 20 weeks in most states.

Source: http://www.guttmacher.org/media/presskits/abortion-WW/statsandfacts.html

Whether the reason a woman chooses abortion is financial, parent readiness, bad timing, being a minor, is a substance abuser, is single, is life-threatening to the mother, is the result of rape, or otherwise, it’s not your business to judge, because it’s not your lifelong responsibility to deal with. PERIOD! Unless you donate regularly to and volunteer at foster homes, or have adopted children of your own, you have no validity in forcing others to do what you want them to do. To say that “adoption is a better option” is ignorant, because foster kids end up angry, uneducated, and in jail most of the time.

Note: If you have taken an honest and realistic approach to anything I’ve written, and STILL would like to argue, then there’s no point in reasoning with you. I’ve tried my best, supported my claims with facts and sources, so I’m okay with the fact that your opinion is unchanged. The beauty of being pro-choice, you see, is that I’m not trying to make big life decisions (having kids) for other people based upon my personal beliefs.

PS, read up on why today’s abortion rates are the lowest since 1973: http://www.latimes.com/local/abcarian/la-me-ra-are-abortion-foes-happy-the-abortion-rate-has-dropped-of-course-not-20140203,0,6828634.story



It’s funny how pro lifers are cheering the lower abortion rates and refusing to acknowledge that the reason for it is sudden, widespread access to something pro choicers have been telling them would lower abortion rates for years: Birth control.

They also ignore that the steepest declines were not in the states with highly restrictive access. They were in the states with the most liberal access.

Reblogged from Life gives lemons here

"40 million is too many"

Saw an anti-abortion billboard that read, “40 million is too many.” Really? Because I think population control is a serious issue as it is. As it stands, there are not enough jobs to go around, we’re all leaving giant carbon footprints that are ruining the planet, and in some parts of the world there isn’t even enough food or water to go around. Add 40 million people PER YEAR to the mix? Just in my lifetime, that means…

40 million per year

x 24 years of my life


960,000,000 more people.

The world couldn’t function with an extra billion people on the planet. Unless you pro-lifers are very confident that you could all adopt and/or support an extra billion people, I think you should reconsider your stance.


A lesson on disagreements

If my office of 3 people can’t even agree about what pizza toppings to order, why would you expect the whole world to agree with your opinions?

If we’re all advocates of equal rights for all, we need to start working proactively from all sides to find suitable solutions for everyone. Oppressors need to realize that change is needed and that there are solutions besides their one “traditional” way. And the oppressed need to realize that true understanding is a slow process and that yelling/blaming everyone else won’t do any good. Can 2014 be the year of patience, love, and working together?